Hey, all out there!!! Especially the married and to-be-married soon!!! I just wanted to share a few critical intricacies of this intimate relationship, Marriage, which takes over you in no-time.
For some time, I was not interested in marriage, probably because of my concentration on my career and the problems at home. Once the girl I am in love with, for a long time, finally said “Yes”, I took the decision to move to the next level and get married. After marriage, I never had a clue of “What next was going to happen?” We were pretty much sure that things were not going to be smooth between our families and between us, because our marriage was an inter-caste love-arranged marriage. One thing which we promised ourselves was the fact we will be together come what may. The love and commitment we shared with each other was way to powerful for any external force to break. We were loyal to the promises we made to each other, standing by each other under any torrential downpour of emotions or unhappiness and trouble.
Frankly speaking, it was not that easy as we thought it would be. We faced quite a few long faces and sarcastic comments from both the families. There was huge expectation from both of us from both sides as to how we are to react to things and how conducted ourselves. We compromised on many things - Food, Language, Culture, Rituals, the way we speak, the way we react - Now that is everything !!! We compromised on almost everything. Initially we used to argue and fight a lot on it (Not that we don't do it now ;-) but One Thing, held us together - LOVE and RESPECT we had for each other.
For the love, we have for each other; we compromised and accepted everything which came our way. I wouldn't say we are a perfect couple, but we are a pair of imperfect getting perfect by the other. And that is what marriage is all about. We are able to accept each other easily because we know who we are and we don't expect a tremendous change in each other just because we are married now.
All said done, there are difficult times, whenever we have argument, one of us gets hurt but after couple of minutes, we would have kissed and made up for that fight. Everyday we learn new things, things that is making us stronger than we where. One thing to be understood in inter-caste marriages is the fact that we are like two wheels of a chariot. For a chariot to run smoothly and at good pace, both wheels have to be in perfect balance with each other. In the same way, the chariot can be considered our vehicle in which we travel the journey of life, if one wheel collapses then how can we move on with our life, isn't that correct ?. To get the balance, it will definitely take time, maybe one month or a year or maybe more, but the idea is not to quit in the middle and give up. Keep trying and trying till you get the balance, till we get it.
We are learning the Art of Living - By Giving and Taking Love “Without Any Expectations”. Now, this doesn't mean that we are a peaceful couple with a smile on our faces always - We still fight “WITH LOVE FOR EACH OTHER”.
