So often I have thought about why some people have a great, healthy relationship while others struggle at some times in their lives together. I am going to talk to myself here, so anyone who wants to join in, please do without reservations.
Personally, my partnerships with men have been a lot of work. The men did not seem to
Be applying themselves much, so I decided I needed to take charge. I never wanted to be the main bolt in the household keeping it together. Don't get me wrong, I sure did want to
Be a significant part of the union, just not the driving force. Many women, I have talked to, want exactly what I thought I would be getting when I partnered with the men I have chosen. Much to the opposite to that fact, I was told by a significant partner, intimidation was what he felt for me.
Many years this apparently was kept secretly hidden, but that is not a good thing to feel for a woman of your dreams. I never knew how long that was alive and well in the thought processes of that man I was married to for 24 years.
How much is hidden and kept from the other partner, until it is too late to remedy?
If I had known I was intimidating, I would have been more apt to search what could have been done to smooth over that characteristic. I was not aware of that until the marriage was beyond repair. This might be enough to absorb for now. I hope no one can relate.
