When you met the attraction was so strong you couldn't get enough of each other. You ditched everyone in order to be with him. You fell in love and finally you were married. Is it still the same or have you lost something with time that's passed? Does he still reach to touch you for no reason except just because? Do you notice couples in public that hold hands with envy, wondering why doesn't he do that anymore?
Time or years spent with the same person doesn't mean boring or comfortable. Are you feeling like the two of you are just roommates after the kids have grown and gone? Think of this as a “how too” to make your relationship what you want it to be.
There have been many “how too” articles written in countless magazines many are based on research from a variety of interviews and polls. This article isn't. I'm 49 and still married to my childhood sweetheart. I was 19 years of age he was 21. We've never lived apart and I couldn't imagine my life without him. He's not my best friend he's my life defined. What keeps him attracted? Funny thing is if you were to look at my photo album I have physically changed bumping up and down in size through the years, different hair styles to make myself feel more attractive accompanied by periods of low self esteem. But he's still there, still wanting me and still in love. How does that happen for some and not for others? Funnier still, we're so opposite you would think it was a match made in hell....but it's not.
Everything in our world has instructions written for “proper care” except relationships. You have to learn through trial and error mostly because there are no two people alike. The best thing about being with the same person for an extended period of time is you know how to read their actions and their expressions. You know their likes and dislikes. You have a blueprint established of what makes them tick. Whatever they are attracted too in the first place is what keeps them staying with you. Body image may be part of the package that attracted them, but it's not the reason someone falls in love. It's personality that makes the whole package shine. Are you still fun to hang out with? Are you still playful? Do you still make your partner feel sexy and desired? Why not? Whoever you were when he met you is the person he fell in love with. Shave off some of those relaxed ideas of being in a secure relationship, nothing is secure in life you have to take care of your relationships as you would anything else.
If you want advice and you think my view might help I'm a click away! Remember this you can't make someone fall in love with you, but if they love with you or were at one time in love with you there's more than hope there's a base to build on.
