http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027 Discussion about: My Secrets for Dating a Married Man http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment420161 We met while I was interning at his workplace
and for three straight months he would NOT leave me alone. I tried my hardest to act as though I was not phased by any of his advances.
Finally toward the end of my internship I gave him my email address and now we email back and forth all day and have been for the last 2 and a half months that I've been away at school.

he wants me to go see him when I come back to town and I do want to see him. Im having all those fears about the kids and the wife and the age difference isn't that great. I mean, he's only twenty four.
I'm really attracted to him. and hey, Maybe this isn't the best Idea... but the chemistry is great he's alot of fun and I'm not expecting anything long term. Im sure that when the rush dies down he'll be back to his wife.

I don't want to wonder what it would have been like if I had tried it.]]> Sun, 16 Nov 2008 23:25:18 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment410169 I am also married and have an 11 yr. old.My married man tells me his wife is addicted to prescription drugs and he keeps telling her to get help but she just talks and no action. She has tried to commit suicide and been in and out of hospitals so he feels if he leaves she will do something crazy and he will not be able to live with himself. I feel that she is using her addiction to make him stay and why would she leave if he\'s taking care of her and her habit.
I\'ve told my married boyfriend that I will not wait forever. The most I\'ll give him is 3 years 2 decide. Then if he still with his wife by then I will walk away and have learned a valuable lesson and be stronger for it.
Meantime I will enjoy our time together because we think so much alike and I do love him and I have never found that in a person

I do feel lonely at times but I never call him or text until he
does first. And sometimes he has to call me twice for I do not put my life on hold for him. I say if he truely loves me he will leave her and if not my life will go on.
everytime he tells me he\'d love to spend a weekend with me I just simply say...just think of all the weekends we will have together when u leave ur wife.
He has talked about having a future with me for good and I say well, that\'s up to u. I\'m ready.
So, ladies just live ur life. if it doesn\'t work just know u never really had him to begin with.]]> Thu, 13 Nov 2008 11:10:14 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment401213 ]]> Mon, 10 Nov 2008 01:49:22 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment369301
now ask yourselves this "did he make you really happy?"....u and i got the good sex, dinners movies and the sweet words, time was too precious to argue when he was around, and when he was away you're the one goin to bed with a hurting heart...ladies, theres is only a very small handfull of men who leave their wives for their bit on the side, no matter how much they tell you they love you...people are scared of change and the devil you know is better than the devil you dont know....]]> Sun, 26 Oct 2008 11:47:04 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment368347 ]]> Sat, 25 Oct 2008 20:50:56 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment367205 my advice to any woman thinking about it please,please don't do
it.It is heart breaking.If you think you are the only other
woman you are stupid because like they say once a cheat always a cheat....We are worth more..... ]]> Sat, 25 Oct 2008 07:54:40 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment366369 ]]> Fri, 24 Oct 2008 19:34:20 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment361011
The other relationship fizzled. In the meantime, I had already met up with the married guy and we not only hit it off, I was intensely attracted to him--something I just was not prepared for. The chemistry between us was electrifying. You know the old fireworks stereotype when people with chemistry kiss? Well, it happened. I tried to break it off with him a couple of times, but we just were too attracted to each other. The bottom line is that I have fallen in love with him. I have my eyes wide open. As I am still married myself, I’m in limbo anyway. I have a daughter who is in high school, so I refuse to get into a really committed relationship for the time being.

This relationship works for me right now. We have a minimum of three years to either work things out or say goodbye. I am at a point where I can\'t imagine not having him in my life. Be it right or wrong, I\'m in this for the long haul. But, I\'m not going to be completely stupid about it. If in three years when the kid graduates, if he is still not willing to make any kind of commitment to me and he is still with his wife, then as painful as it might be, I\'m out of there. He is the type of person I will always be good friends with. I make no demands of him. He makes no demands of me. As a matter of fact, he clearly tells me that he cannot be what I need right now and I accept that. I honestly believe that this may very well end up going someplace, but I\'m not going to be stupid about it. The biggest drawback to the relationship is that we have a little bit of distance between us, but believe me, even though I only get to see him about once a month, it is worth it. I am going to hold on to the moments I have with him because life is short, real chemistry between people is rare, and true love is elusive.]]> Wed, 22 Oct 2008 10:00:16 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment347799

i\'m involved with a married guy and i\'ve seen what sum wives do to there husbands.

ohk we work together an before we got involved we were best friends.he is a very gentle guy an every1 at work loves him to bits. it started out where she always moans about his friends and that when it comes to saturdays for his time out with males she picks fights with him just to keep him at home.


one day after work he gave me a lift home and we started talking about our problems an he told me that his wife treated him like a child and that she had an affair with a friend of his and he forgave her but after he gave her a second chance she\'s watching his every move. we\'re togther now for 4mnths and she is still seeing the guy he caught her with. we\'re happy and he still goes hme to her but in seperate rooms.

this is just a short part of my story.


TO EVERY FEMALE OUT THERE YOU CAN BE HAPPY WITH A MARRIED MAN IF YOU HAVE THO WHOLE STORY AND IF THER\'S KIDS THE SAME THING GOES. WE HAVE AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS KIDS AND FROM ME I\'VE FALLEN INLOVE WITH HIS KIDS AND TREAT THEM LIKE I\'D TREAT MY OWN CAUSE IF YOU LOVE THE GUY U CAN BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS KIDS.

THIS IS WHAT I\'M DOING JUST TO KEEP THE LOVE FLOWING AND THE WIFE AT BAY]]> Thu, 16 Oct 2008 07:09:39 PST http://www.beyondjane.com/Relationships/Dating/My-Secrets-for-Dating-a-Married-Man.176027#comment342645 He gives me so much more than i expected from a married man. I have dated married men before but they are not like him. I dont know if his behaviour is due to frustrations at home or trying to make up for the lost time.

what makes this whole situation bad is am also married and to a man who seems not to notice me, they are two completely different people. My married Boyf does exactly the opposite of my husband. he kinda makes me feel whole in every way. Does not give me grief compared to my husband. Should i give him a chance???

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